DATING-GUYS ARE LIKE WOMEN'S SHOES So I'm with my friend at dinner last night, and during part of our multi-part conversation we talk about guys, gals and dating. And as I stared at Sushi Chef, Akio-san, the strangest, yet somewhat logical picture of women's shoes came to my mind.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, expert on dating or women's shoe salesman--just a simple guy that gets random visions in the middle of conversations.
First the context: my friend talks about another guy friend who was recently dating a gal, and after a few months, the gal decided that she could not care or love him beyond what she has already put into the short-lived relationship. So, she asks to call it off, and shortly, as logic goes, they will part their separate ways.
My vision: So for whatever reason, the first picture that comes to my mind are women's shoes. To some women (cuz I don't want to be accused of over generalizing here; this is just a theory!!), guys are like "shoes" to them. So typical scenario: woman goes to the mall, window shops and sees the millions of shoes glaring in the window (where shoes telepathically send this low-frequency signal that even HD Radio can't pick up that says "hey there, pick me"). And then somewhere along the way, a pair or 3 catches a woman's eye, and she goes in, etc, etc, and subsequently buys one of the pair of shoes. The woman brings home the shoes, and at some point wears them once, maybe twice, and then ditches them and the pair of shoes ends up in a dark place called 'the back of the closet'.
At best, shoes for women tend to be short lived: First the attraction; Then, 1 or few uses; Then shoe is let go and stuck in the back of the closet (boo!!). And then, after about a week, the cycle starts over again.
At best I'm being a little humorous here with the analogy, but as my friend was describing that situation with her friend, I began thinking of some of the friends I have, (female friends), that just seem to go in-and-out of dating for various reasons or another. And for some reason, my vision is skewed because I can't think of an analogy for a guy.
When I blurted out this sudden vision to my friend after she shared her friend's story, she laughed, then took a moment, and cited that was actually an interesting analogy: not totally right (of all cases), but not necessarily far-fetched either. Ha ha, could I be on to something here? Ladies, please comment!!!
I will say, having been in 3 relationships, where I was basically the "pair of shoes" put to the back of the closet, I spent a lot of time thinking what I did wrong. As my friend briefly indicated, I didn't do anything wrong; and it's not necessarily that I could have done something more right. It's just one of those things (i.e. chemistry). So are guys (single, non-married guys) relegated to simply a "pair of shoes"? In that case, BOO!!
But I also said that my analogy above is for women in their 20's. I had mentioned that once a woman hits their 30's and become more aware that their 'clock is ticking', that the "shoe buying" may slow down, and then well, maybe the 'shoes' will get longer 'use life', on average.
So what does this all mean?
Guys, wait till the 30s!!! Ha ha, I'm just kidding.
In all honesty, relationships are such a complex thing to pinpoint. Just think there are as many books on dating and relationships/marriage as there are shoes in the world. So I don't expect relationships to be as shallow as my shoe analogy, but as a guy, when you see certain patterns, sometimes I wonder. Guys, are you hearing me on this?!!!
Guys? Anybody?....Oh dear....
3 comments:
that was a funny analogy... awesome! I think it works on some level. I think it can work for men too. I know a few guys that go from relationship to relationship. Anyway, I think at the heart of it, like consumeristic natures, is a heart of discontent. Although chemistry is a valid concern, I think people use that as a convenient excuse to get out of a relationship that takes more work than they are willing to put in. All relationships take work, some more than others. There must have been some attraction (aka chemistry )for a person to even consider a relationship with someone (...i hope, that could be a whole other topic). Honestly, when a relationship ends, theres usually something you did wrong just as much as there was something the other person did wrong. The cliche holds true, there is something to be learned. But I digress...
Its sad that most people aren't able to appreciate what they have. When they get tired or bored of whats in front of them, their instinct is to throw it out and get something new. Its bad enough when its things like shoes, but its infinitely worse when its a person. Nobody should ever get treated like a commodity. Truth is, people that are willing to treat others like that aren't worth the time. I want to be surrounded by people that see people instead of a toys.
I guess with the age thing, hopefully the older a person gets the wiser... or more desperate. I don't think you have to wait till your 30. A older discontented person will be a discontented person that compromises. I say take the time to find someone that has a grateful and thankful heart and that'll be the one that stays.
good words to both of ya! haha I quite enjoyed the analogy and agree that it definitely goes both ways. seems so hard these days to find anyone who is willing to work through their relationships. the second things get tough, someone ditches and runs faining that it was never meant to be. it's not always going to be sunshine and bunny rabbits and it takes two to work it out.
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Nice comments...sunshine and bunny rabbits...haha, I love it!!!
Appreciate it very much! Good points, good points.
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